Help! My EX is sleeping around!

If you opened this article, then you are one of four kinds of people.

1. Those who know me and are concerned about my welfare and want to know what prompted this.
2. Those who know me and my unusual ways of thought and want to know “What he up now?”
3. Those who see this as funny and are wondering why an EX’s lifestyle should still be my business
4. Those who just like reading anything and this is just another article just feel yo should read it to “help” the writer.
5. Those who have or are currently “having” this though in their minds

For those No.1 people, don’t be alarmed, you know me, nothing is wrong it’s just an article. And I’m very sure a huge percentage of my EX’s aren’t doing that because I made it a point of duty to date only “good girls”. 

For those No.2 people, Yes, I’m up  my creative self again, so read on. I wrote this piece for you; No.3 people. It’s funny but true, even through this post is not about EX, this was a superb way of getting you to read. Please read on, don’t go. Thanks

For those No.4 people, I don’t particularly like people like you who just read for the fun of it. This actually not your business, no pun intended, but please GO AWAY. For the No.5 people (yes I know, I only mentioned four people in the opening paragraph, but I’m the writer, I can pretty much do what I like can’t I?), this article may have a subject that concerns you, but really, it is not about that. Maybe sometime later, I’ll write something concerning that, you can read on, but before you do, I think you should talk to the people at No.3.

I love Idioms like “Let sleeping dogs lie”, “Don’t cry over spilled milk”, “dead men can’t talk” (even though they can in Nigerian movies). They sound like Parables Jesus would say. They could be astoundingly wise sayings or incredulously stupid at times depending on the outlook.

These sayings point to just one thing, just as I planned it- the Past.  What’s in the past to you? A year ago, perhaps 10 or maybe a 100? Yesterday or maybe last week? A minute or probably an hour? We measure the past by time, which is no problem to many of us because we believe we are measured by time.  I don’t think so.

Just as builders (of whatever profession) pay more premium on quality over quantity, we humans must understand the importance of how good the impact we have is rather than how long the impact was made. Yes, we are indeed pressed for time, time which is not divinely inflicted, but of human intervention. We are the ones killing ourselves, suffocating our lives with undue pressure and creating imaginary highways and with speed records to race. We spend time building smooth motorways and we forget to add Road Signs, Rest Stops and Road bends.

Let’s not veer off.

The past in my estimation should not be quantified by time, but by moments. Your past is not necessarily your life’s history, but your LIFE HISTORY. Every moment in your life is a past to a new moment. Moments, I believe are measured by decision we make every day. Moments are the actions we take by ourselves based on our free will. What you decide to do from the minute you drop reading this piece is a moment in your life. 

You built that moment, it’s yours and that’s I believe is what we will be measured by at judgment; not how long we spend because we don’t control that, but how well we spend them. Every moment of your exercising your free will is a moment of freedom, it is a gift. Freedom in my own definition is not “doing what you feel like” because you could feel like being like Obama. By so doing, you are unconsciously serving Obama. Freedom to me are the moments in life we exercise our own free will. You may be in bondage outwardly but free inwardly. Freedom is like FUBU (For Us By Us). The past therefore symbolizes then transition between one and the other.

Some pasts using this context could be beautiful at one and end and ugly at the other. Past moments greatly affect our moods; we could have a great start to the day and an ugly end to the same day what changed? Moment.

This closing line of an online reflective devotional written by a friend of mine and aptly titled “Defining Moments ” pointedly instructs “Make each Moment Count” I love that. (I get this funny feeling there are still No.4 type people still reading). Your next moment will be as good as you decide it to be. Yes problems may come, shit may happen, but how do you face them? Your past should count for something. A classmate of mine who was humorously wise in the delivery of his anecdotes once advised “Never try something for the first time”. It’s funny, seemingly impossible but true. Maybe it could sound less awkward and feasible if he added “without thinking first”.

But he had he reasons and I prefer this version. From the book Wise Words and Quotes by Vernon McLellan; one of the best gifts given to me, a quotes read “It is better to prepare and prevent, rather than repair and repent” Need I say more? It takes an idiotic gossip (and don’t be surprised ; these variety of people still exist and thrive) to peddle such news to a person, informing his listener that “Your EX is sleeping around” It takes a more “idiotic-er” listener to take the rumor serious.

It shouldn't concern you about what your EX is doing, this same way it shouldn’t concern you how your past has been. It’s a forgotten moment you built, your dwelling on it short changes your future and all other moments you could do better. Every new moment is an opportunity to complement the previous and do better. The past is past. And please ensure, your EX sleeping around (if ever true) doesn’t get to sleep around to you. 

I’m talking you No.5!